“Destiny or fate is a predetermined course of events.
It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an
individual. It is a concept based on the belief that there is a fixed natural order to the cosmos” – Source,
Wikipedia
We
all try to live life on the positive, live with big dreams and high aspirations.
We pray for the light to shine so
brightly on us that we will succeed in almost anything we undertake, yet we
know we will fail or be rejected in majority of what we do (or they to do), and
still push on despite all shortcomings. That is the ideal view of ‘perseverance’,
but unfortunately most of us do not have this instilled in us and tend to take
shortcuts. So where does fate/destiny come in?? While majority do know that we
will not succeed in everything we do, we tend to be too hopeful. There are some
people that have tried and tried, time and time again, to succeed in whatever
they attempt but to no avail. For instance, someone may decide to open up a
business, it does well for the first few months then flops out of the blue. A
deal that looked promising at one time may fall apart suddenly. As a result the
affected party may say “I am cursed”, or “This is fate, I wasn’t meant to
succeed in this area”. This is a swan song that many of us sing a lot of the
time, whenever something goes wrong, the automatic response is: “Fate caused
this”, and we basically give up o whatever we were pursuing.
Think
about it; is it really fate?? Did fate decide that you are the one who will
never succeed in life? Did fate decide that you will never get that job? Did
fate decide? Has fate let you down that much? Well, my brothers and sisters,
the simple answer is that you are the instigator of your shortcomings, you have
let yourself down. “Fate”, is an excuse we give ourselves. Whenever something
goes wrong, we blame it all on “fate” so as to excuse ourselves from the blame.
So we let leave, abandon the cause and just slump to submission.
We
need to realize that what distinguishes a successful person from a failure is
the willingness to succeed no matter the weight of the obstacle. If we do not
achieve our set goals due to an event, we should not give up because “I was not
meant to do this”. Instead, we should formulate a new strategy to overcome our
failures. An illustration is where we are walking down a path and we see a huge
rock on the path, we cannot get through the rock using brute force, so we try
hammering away, and the rock is too thick to break through. Should we give up
and go back? Did fate decide that we meet the rock and not go through it? No.
We should formulate another way to bypass this obstacle, say, go round it. What
if this does not work? Well then, we can decide to go back the route and equip
ourselves with the necessary artillery to go through the rock, say, come back
with a bulldozer. Those who do this will
eventually realize their dreams and expectations.
To
conclude, we should not let fate/destiny shape our future. Instead, we should
take our future by the scruff of the neck and dictate the course we take
ourselves. Remember the saying, “If you do not succeed, try and try again”.
Where you fail in an attempt, find out why you failed, work on it, and come
back stronger, better, and more willing to succeed. With a positive attitude, hardwork, dedication
and belief in God, there is no way that is impassable.
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